Comments on: Carcinomies and Muggles

By: LizM

LizM — Sat, 30 Aug 2025 12:04:31 +0000

In reply to Janet. Great response. I too have it.

By: Ragged Clown

Ragged Clown — Wed, 22 May 2024 14:42:46 +0000

You sound like a Stoic, Robin! I am a big fan of Seneca and wrote about him here:
https://www.raggedclown.com/2024/03/23/how-to-die/

By: Robin Martinez

Robin Martinez — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 22:01:23 +0000

Kevin, I agree about toxic positivity; yet I have a different take on “Everything will be all right.”

It will, because dying is all right.

Dying peacefully is better.

Dying well is better still.

You have the attitude and are in the position to do all three, and you will. Stay as long as you are happy, and go when it is time. It’s all right to let go.

We will miss you, we will grieve you, we will remember you with smiles eventually; and we (at least some of us) will know it is all right.

Love to all.

By: Ragged Clown

Ragged Clown — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 19:10:14 +0000

In reply to Dianne Pagani. Thank you, Di! We talk about it often and we still enjoy the Electric Slide (boogie woogie woogie woogie).

By: Ragged Clown

Ragged Clown — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 19:09:05 +0000

In reply to John.

Thank you for your kind words, Johnboy.

I am actually not despondent at all. I have moments when I wonder at the dark clouds over my head but most of the time, I am as cheery as I have always been.

I like people and I enjoy being with them.

By: Ragged Clown

Ragged Clown — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 19:06:47 +0000

In reply to Janet. I enjoy talking about my journey (I prefer 'adventure') but I know that many people do not. It's important to understand what people prefer before jumping in with anecdotes.

By: Ragged Clown

Ragged Clown — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 19:02:54 +0000

In reply to Diana. I'm new here, Diana, but I already see how different this world is.

By: Dianne Pagani

Dianne Pagani — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 18:22:50 +0000

Well I just want to say I love you and will always cherish the time we spent all together when you guys lived in NY. Xoxo

By: Jeffrey Fredrick

Jeffrey Fredrick — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 17:45:16 +0000

I want the best for you.

By: John

John — Thu, 22 Sep 2022 17:44:55 +0000

Ohh bollocks Kevin, I have Multiple myeloma, I am fully aware of how buggered up I am.
Like yourself getting cancer was low on my radar, I don’t know or care how I got, but it’s there and there is nothing I can do about it.
I do not worry about it until I am in pain or can’t breath, or have to be rushed to hospital.
everyone says I am tough I will cope, yes I am tough and I will cope, however it is very testing.
Today I saw a young woman in a weakened state, head bandaged hobbling with a tripod going to the toilet, I also saw a man who looked emaciated, you think these people are so desperately Ill , why put themselves through so much torment ?
I wonder if they look at me in the same vein.

I think like yourself I am a sociable person, and I don’t want people to treat me as if I were dying and I don’t want lip service of false hope.
Whilst I am alive I want to live.
I am not like you, you are inspirational, you have done so much for so many people on smart-patients,, your life has been filled with adventure, I don’t always agree with you but your ideas and conversation has been thought provoking .

President Biden has a cartoon in his office of Hagar being struck by lightning, Hagar shouts, Why me God?

God shouts, Hagar why not you?

It was president Biden thoughts on his wife and daughter dying in a car accident, and his son dying of cancer.

We must bear in mind that it was not president Biden who died but his family, that pain of loss will live with him forever.

I think we owe it to our loved ones to do the best we can, your absolutely right, whatever we do may have very little effect, nevertheless we must use every tool at our disposal to make our journey bearable.

Our wonderful Queen was a great inspiration, I never met her, and when she passed a part of me died, I think King Charles will be equally wonderful , his level of commitment and responsibility will be a heavy burden, however it is what he was born to do.

I often wonder what was I born to do? my simple answer is I was born to do the best I can.

You have done well Kevin, and it is a privilege to be able to converse with you through the opportunities you have offered us for discussion .
Please do not become too despondent, you don’t have to be a king or a Queen.
like me you you are an normal person, you do make the world a better place.

I am not saying this to make you feel better, I am saying this because it’s in you and what you do, you deserve recognition.

Johnboy France