Would you be game in helping me make this a reality?
(nine eight 0) seven 2 two. zero zero 4 six

That’s close, but not quite it – there are times when you want to change your image of yourself based on a new realization. “Crud, I did X again and I promised myself I wouldn’t, it’s prolly best if I just accept it and stop trying to avoid doing X”. You need not always feel shame. I didn’t feel my greatest shame for voting Democrat this year Perhaps I should interpret your “bad” as “net bad” rather than “in some sense bad”.

Or even “weird, I did X, LOL that’s odd, that’s not like me”. I keep having a dream I bought a BMW M5, though I’m someone who always buys from the Ford family (and who doesn’t like V10 engines, they don’t sound right). Perhaps trivial because brand loyalty isn’t an essential part of my self-image. Perhaps “conflicts with who we want most to be” or something.

Maybe it’s that I’m interpreting shame negatively (as you know I tend to make such value judgments about everything), or that it implies wallowing beyond what’s useful, think your ability to feel compassion for your own humanity can in some instances nullify shame, or conversely how perfect you think you are (or need to be) is relevant. So I’m not sure if you don’t feel bad about it, there’s no shame, or there IS, but it’s nominal. Maybe I’m just getting hung up on semantics. Again.

What I’m trying to say in a rambling way, is that your good thesis is too broad, and might be improved by further clarifying which ones get through your armor.

In any case, I think we’ve all done reprehensible things as kids. If you’ve never skidded off the track, you don’t really know how fast you can go. Get that sorted before your an adult, don’t make the same mistakes twice, and I grant you absolution. Hmmm, unless there are ongoing consequences, like you killed somebody (and they therefore have ongoing death) damn – not sure. One of the benefits of organized religion is they have books to clarify all this to some standard – makes life simpler if you outsource your morality / philosophy. Maybe ISO/ANSI/IEEE/UL/CE has some sort of literature I can download.